My son and I now live in a tomb of what once was a home, and I know Noah feels it. There’s nothing I can do but hide the truth from him—that I’m scared too, that things have changed and may never go back to the way they were, and that I’m not sure I want them to.
Instead, I bury myself in work. The bills still need to be paid, so I’ve taken a job at my sister’s law firm as a file clerk. The work keeps me busy. It’s something temporary until I can figure out a better way of supporting us. I’ve applied for the VBSN program to get my nursing degree, and I’m waiting to hear back. I don’t know what future I’m ready for, but the more I wait on life, the longer I’m living it in uncertainty.
It’s been almost two months since my husband left me a second time, and I have yet to catch sight of him. Every night I paralyze myself with medications to keep me in my nightmares so that I can’t wake up to my reality. I’m taking them because I want them to work; I want more than anything to break through this barrier of living half a life. One day, I’ll allow myself to want more, but in the meantime, I’m concentrating on my son’s heartbreak and doing everything I can to make up for the fact that I failed. So, I smile for him because he needs me to. I use all my energy to fill the void of losing myself to my mistakes, and I bury the pain by keeping busy. I spent two days cleaning up the mess Gavin made in the living room and planting the flowers he brought me. My days blur as I keep my hands busy, thinking of new ways to keep from sitting idle. It isn’t until night, while sitting on the swing as Noah reads to me, that the war wages over thoughts of each of them, with no word from either. So, fuck my heart. All I can do is ignore it to keep living.
It’s nearing the end of the workday when my phone chimes from inside my desk drawer.
Gavin: I’ll pick him up from school tomorrow.
Me: That’s the third time this week.
Gavin: And I’m keeping him over the weekend.
Me: What? Please call me.
Gavin: I’m taking him fishing.
Me: Where? Can we please discuss this?
Gavin: Just have him packed.
Anger surges through me as I try to reason with myself. If this is what my future looks like, I’m going to have to deal with it. It’s his call, and I’m still sifting through the ashes trying to find some semblance of direction. Noah needs to know his father is still very much in the picture, and I’ve had him the majority of the time we’ve been apart. Gavin is a full-time father; it’s my fault he’s not still playing the part.
Me: Okay. Do you think we can talk when you get back?
Gavin: Nothing to say.
Me: There’s plenty to say.
Gavin: Maybe for you.
Me: Please talk to me.
Minutes pass, and when I see nothing from his end, I know the conversation is over.
“Hey,” Sammy says, as I look up to her with threatening tears.
“Let’s talk in there,” she says, nodding toward the bathroom.
Once inside, she locks it, turning to me with her arms crossed.
“What’s wrong?”
“Gavin’s taking him fishing this weekend.”
“Okay,” she says, giving me a questioning look.
“And I feel like I’m waiting for a fucking atomic bomb to drop.”
“You aren’t in control, and that bothers you, I get it. But this is his decision. Do you even want to reconcile?”
“He won’t forgive me.”
“That’s not what I asked,” she says patiently.
“I don’t care about me,” I answer honestly. “I don’t care.”
“You do, or you wouldn’t be so upset.”
“You know what I wish?” I say, pacing in front of her. “I wish that I would have never fucking gone to Baghdad.”
“And then you wouldn’t have met Chris.”
His name is like a shock wave.
“Yes,” I say, resentful. “Yes, because I wouldn’t know.”
“Know what?”
“That he exists! Jesus, are you listening?”
“Keep your voice down,” she warns.
“Sorry,” I say as she stops me, her hands on my shoulders.
“I love him,” I say with a sigh.
“Who?”
“Exactly. I keep waiting for my heart to tip over one way or the other, and it won’t, Sammy, and it doesn’t matter cause I’m not listening to it anyway. I’m so much better off.”
“Yeah, Sis, you look happy,” she spouts sarcastically. I glare at her for seconds before we burst into laughter.
“Okay, so you fell in love with Gavin when you were nineteen. You settled down early, it’s only natural to feel—”
“No, no, that’s not it, not at all. That’s not it.”
“Okay, so what you felt over there with Briggs was just as real.”
“Yes,” I say adamantly. “And he’s over there, right now, he’s punishing me too.”
“By doing his job?”
“I didn’t ask for this, don’t you see, Sammy? I didn’t ask for this. I didn’t want it. I never wanted any of this.”
“Do you want your family back for the sake of your son only?”
“I want Noah to know he’s my priority.”
“Fine, make him the priority. You can’t worry about Gavin’s part in this. You just need to trust him to be the great father we both know he is. And in doing that you can let your heart shrivel up and die in the dark because it’s your fault you fell for a gorgeous man who saved you and helped you through the darkest days of your life. Who bowed out when you asked him to and stepped up to the plate when you couldn’t.”
I stop pacing as I see Sammy’s eyes fill up with concern. “I’m torn for you, Sis. I really am. I think, in a way, I’m vicariously in love with them both myself for the men they are. I only know bits and pieces of what happened and the state it’s left you in. But knowing you and Gavin, what you have, I can’t blame you for trying so hard, even feeling the way you do about Chris. And in some way, I don’t think he can either, though I’m sure he would never admit it.”
“Trust me, he does.”
“Here you are with two amazing men vying for you, and I can’t even get a decent date.”
“Tell me what to do.”
“Well, seeing as how neither one wants to have shit to do with you at the moment, I would say keep trucking, but do it a little bit better. The heart you’re ignoring is sitting on your sleeve, bleeding freely. But I do agree it’s time to check that bastard. How about you allow yourself to fully function without them. But keep in mind, one or both are going to come back at some point. That’s what you need to be thinking about.”
“Gavin hates me, Sammy.”
“He’s never loved you more than he does right now, mark my words. You’ve got to give him this time to decide whether or not he can forgive you. You did a horrible thing, and he’s never been faced with the idea of losing you before. This is new territory. He’s terrified and out of his mind with hurt, and that hurt is what you’re getting the brunt of right now.”
“And Chris?”
“You know exactly what he’s doing over there. Distracting himself by blowing shit up. You remember how Daddy sometimes got when he and Momma used to fight?”
“Not really, I was too young I think.”
“He’d call his army buddies over to stay for the weekend and ignore the rest of us.”
“Oh, yeah,” I say, recalling the number of ‘uncles’ I used to have.
“They’d get piss drunk for days, but when they left, Daddy would be in a better mood for a few weeks.”
“Yeah, he took us to the carnival once after.”
“Exactly,” she says.
I keep nodding.
“But I’ll warn you now, as much as you hate what’s happened, it needed to.”
“What? How in the hell can you say that?”
“Because it’s out. The truth, what’s been eating you alive. It’s finally out.”
“As much good as it’s done.”