results. Stains on the nightshirt or sheet occurring before puberty

are absolute evidence of the vice in boys.

WHAT FATHERS SHOULD DO FOR THEIR BOYS

Make sex facts clear to your boy as interesting, matter-of-fact

developments of general natural laws. Ungratified or improperly

gratified curiosity is what leads to a young boy's overemphasizing the

facts of sex as they apply to him. Make him your confidant. Teach him

to think cleanly and to act cleanly, neither to ignore nor to exalt

the sexual. Especially, when he himself is directly disturbed

sexually, either in a mental or physical way, let him feel that he can

apply to you naturally for relief and explanation. If this be done,

your boy's sex development before puberty will be natural and normal,

and when the more serious and difficult problems of adolescence

present themselves, he will be prepared to handle them on the basis of

right thinking and right living. Natural and healthy sport in the open

air, and the avoidance of foul language and indecency should be

stressed. The use of alcohol, coffee and tea by children tends to

weaken their sexual organs. Every boy should know that chastity means

continence. He should know that lascivious thoughts lead to lascivious

actions, and that these are a drain on his system which may spoil his

life in later years.

In the education of his children the average man is only too apt to

repeat the same mistake of unconsciously crediting the child with the

possession of his own feelings and his own outlook, that is the

feelings and outlook of the adult. In general, things which may make

an impression in a sex way on the adult are a matter of indifference

to the sexually unripe boy. Hence it is quite possible for a father to

discuss sex matters with his young son and inform him constructively,

without in any undue way rousing his sex curiosity or awakening

desire. Such talks, of course, should be in accordance with the

principles already laid down in the section on "Reproduction."

If a boy is accustomed and taught to regard sex conditions and matters

in a proper and innocent manner, as something perfectly natural,

improper curiosity and eroticism are far less likely to be aroused

than when this is not the case. For the whole subject will have lost

the dangerous attraction of novelty. On the other hand, we find boys

who have been brought up with great prudery and in complete ignorance

of sex matters (save that which may come to them from impure sources)




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