No Second Chance

Lenny, the head coach, was yelling out key, game-winning strategy to our players. When we are on offense, he tells them to “Score!” When we are on defense, he advises them to “Stop him!” And then sometimes, like right now, he offers keen insight into the subtleties of the game:

“Kick the ball!”

Lenny glanced at me after he’d shouted that for the fourth time in a row. I gave him a thumbs-up and way-to-go nod. He wanted to give me the finger, but there were too many underage witnesses. I refolded my arms and squinted at the field. The kids were geared up like the pros. They wore cleats. Their socks were pulled up over their shin guards. Most wore that black grease under their eyes, even though there was nary a hint of sunshine. Two even had those breathing strip-bandages across their noses. I watched Kevin, my godson, try, per his father’s instructions, to kick the ball. And then it hit me like a body blow.

I staggered back.

That was how it always happened. I will be watching the game or I’ll be having dinner with friends or I’ll be working on a patient or listening to a song on the radio. I’ll be doing something normal, average, feeling pretty decent, and then, wham, I get blindsided.

My eyes welled up. That never used to happen to me before the murder and kidnapping. I am a doctor. I know how to play poised in both my professional and personal life. But now I wear sunglasses all the time like some self-important B movie star. Cheryl looked up at me and again I saw the concern. I straightened and forced a smile. Cheryl was becoming beautiful. That happened sometimes. Motherhood agreed with certain women. It gave their physical appearance a wonder and richness that borders on the celestial.

I don’t want to give you the wrong impression. I don’t spend every day crying. I still live my life. I am bereaved, sure, but not all the time. I am not paralyzed. I work, though I haven’t yet had the courage to travel overseas. I keep thinking that I need to stay close by, in case there is a new development. That kind of thinking is, I know, not rational and perhaps even delusional. But I am still not ready.

What gets me—what gives me that surprise wham—is the way grief seems to relish in catching you unawares. Grief, when spotted, can be, if not handled, somewhat manipulated, finessed, concealed. But grief likes to hide behind bushes. It enjoys leaping out of nowhere, startling you, mocking you, stripping away your pretense of normalcy. Grief lulls you to sleep, thus making that blindside hit all the more jarring.

“Uncle Marc?”

It was Conner again. He talked pretty well for a kid his age. I wondered what Tara’s voice would have sounded like, and behind my sunglasses, my eyes closed. Sensing something, Cheryl reached out to pull him away. I shook her off. “What is it, pal?”

“What about poop?”

“What about it?”

He looked up and closed one eye in concentration. “Is poop my friend?”

Hell of a question. “I don’t know, pal. What do you think?”

Conner considered his own query so hard it appeared as if he might explode. Finally he replied, “It’s more my friend than diarrhea.”

I nodded sagely. Our team scored another goal. Lenny shot his fists into the air and shouted, “Yes!” He nearly cartwheeled out to congratulate Craig (or should I say Craigy), the goal scorer. The players followed him. There was much high-fiving. I didn’t join in. My job, I figured, was to be the quiet partner to Lenny’s histrionics, the Tonto to his Lone Ranger, the Abbott to his Costello, the Rowan to his Martin, the Captain to his Tennille. Balance.

I watched the parents on the sidelines. The mothers became clusters. They talked about their kids, about their child’s achievements and extracurricular activities, and no one listened much because other people’s children are boring. The fathers offered more variety. Some videotaped. Some yelled encouragement. Some rode their kids in a way that borders on the unhealthy. Some gabbed on cell phones and constantly fiddled with handheld electronics of one kind or another, experiencing a bit of the bends after spending all week immersed in their work.

Why did I go to the police?

I have been told countless times since that terrible day that I am not to blame for what happened. On one level, I realize that my actions may have changed nothing. In all likelihood, they had never intended to let Tara come home. She might even have been dead before the first ransom call. Her death may have been accidental. Maybe they just panicked or were strung out. Who knows? I certainly don’t.

And, ah, there’s the rub.

I cannot, of course, be certain that I am not responsible. Basic science: For every action, there is a reaction.

I do not dream about Tara—or if I do, the gods are generous enough to not let me remember. That is probably giving them too much credit. Let me rephrase. I may not dream about Tara specifically, but I do dream about the white van with the mix-and-match license plate and the stolen magnetic sign. In the dreams I hear a noise, muffled, but I’m pretty sure it is the sound of a baby crying. Tara, I know now, was in the van, but in my dream, I don’t go toward the sound. My legs are buried deep in that nightmare muck. I can’t move. When I finally wake up, I cannot help but ponder the obvious. Was Tara that close to me? And more important: Had I been a little braver, could I have saved her then and there?

The referee, a lanky high-school boy with a good-natured grin, blew the whistle and waved his hands over his head. Game over. Lenny shouted, “Woo, yeah!” The eight-year-olds stared at one another, confused. One asked a teammate, “Who won?” and the teammate shrugged. They lined up, Stanley Cup hockey style, for the postgame handshakes.

Cheryl stood up and put a hand on my back. “Great win, Coach.”

“Yeah, I carry this team,” I said.

She smiled. The boys started rambling back toward us. I congratulated them with my stoic nod. Craig’s mother had brought a fifty-pack of Dunkin’ Donuts Munchkins in a box with a Halloween design. Dave’s mom had boxes of something called Yoo-hoo, a perverse excuse for chocolate milk that tastes like chalk. I popped a Munchkin in my mouth and skipped the washdown. Cheryl asked, “What flavor was that?”

I shrugged. “They come in different flavors?” I watched the parents interact with their children and felt tremendously out of place. Lenny came toward me.

“Great win, wasn’t it?”

“Yeah,” I said. “We’re the balls.”

He gestured for us to step away. I complied. When we were out of earshot, Lenny said, “Monica’s estate is almost wrapped up. It shouldn’t be too much longer now.”